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My Daughter And I

"Its a girl!" The midwife said glowing. I smiled but have been wishing the scanner was wrong. I wanted a boy. Well, I admit I was selfsih but it was my preferred choice. I wanted my first baby to be a boy, a replica of his father. So that anytime Derrick was on one of those long work journeys, he will still be at home in his baby. And secretly, I didn't want a girl to come first, and share my husband's love. Its mine! When she grows, she'll find hers. Woman's vanity, jealousy! So all through my 36 weeks of pregnancy, I kept talking to my boy in the womb. Derrick said she will be named Pauline and I quickly masculinized it, its a Paul. Every morning before going to work, he pulls up my dress, kneels down and kisses my heavily protruded tummy, "Good morning Pauline!" I never miss the opportunity to correct them both, "It is a Paul, I'm carrying a boy!" Derrick walks through the door laughing. As if he has forgotten. But how d...

WHAT YOUR CHILD NEEDS MOST

Parenthood is very exciting. Seeing your own child born is one of the most electrifying things in life. It's hard for us to explain. When my first son, Gold, was born I was right beside my wife all through the labour. Initially I felt guilty for putting her through such a life threatening ordeal. I will spare you the details. But the spellbinding amazement when the tiny thing finally came out and the midwife cleaned him and handed him over to me, to welcome him with sweet godly words and bless him as biblical tradition shows, I was speechles at first. Finding words to speak was hard without an inspiration. Every tiny bit of that little, perfect and glorious baby was lifegiving, inspiring and peace-inducing. My world changed within minutes and I didn't know neither who he was nor who I was. I lacked words to thank Gloria. I told her this is your son, as if I needed to give him to her as a gift. He was already hers. She carried him for 9 months and laboured for hal...